When you have been with a lover for any amount of time one of the biggest complaints is that sex isn't as "fun" anymore. Its not new, spontaneity will help with that thrill.
But how do you put spontaneity into your sex life?
1) Think outside of the box. This is a challenge for everyone, but its also a big bunch of fun! Fantasize. Where in your house haven't you made love to your partner? Where is somewhere you often go together? Do you hike? Do you own your own store? Keep these to yourself and watch for just the right moment.
2) Allow for time. If you know that you are supposed to be to work by 8 and your partner has to be there by 7, "accidently" set the alarm early and join him or her in the shower. Start the morning with some lovely and surprising oral or a hand job. Help cover the chores your partner wants to get done so they have more time with you.
3) Be aware of your partner's mood. Think about the time when he or she tends to be at their "randiest." Mine tends to be about 2-3 o'clock in the afternoon. Be available during that time and help to assist that horny mood in any ways you know how (flirting, spanking, tweaking, teasing.)
4) Keep clean up on hand. If you need condoms keep them on hand, its also a good idea to keep a few wipes available, because lets face it sex is a dirty business, your partner will be pleased if you came prepared!
5) Listen for clues. This one goes toward 3, your partner may be dropping hints all the time for ways for you to be spontaneous. Have they ever talked about getting a hand job in public? Maybe the next movie you should take a jacket and play with him or her in the darkness under the coat. Have they been talking about dropping the kids off at your parents for the weekend? Maybe you should arrange that and realize that they're wanting YOU.
When you start watching for situations you may become surprised how easy it is to get with your lover.
How do you keep spontaneity in your life? How do you keep the spice alive? Feel free to leave me a comment! :)
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