As an erotic author sex is my livelihood. As a woman who particularly likes "dark" sex, rape, and some BDSM, these topics have come from my fingertips and onto my pages many times.
Most of my rape scenes are "mock-rape." Consensual, desired, fantasies played out - like those in Deep, Deeper, and Too Deep. I have explored fantasies like this in my personal life, both alone and with my partner. The level of intimacy is unmatched.
As an author the decision to stretch a character with acting out darker sexual fantasies is a challenge and in some cases the only foreseeable way for a character to act. I have been reading a lot about Adam - since unfortunately we decided to cut cable all together to increase productivity and from what I gather Adam is the socially awkward equivalent to Christian Grey. Obsessed with darker sex and the desire to be in power. But where as Ana wanted to try it, wanted to explore BDSM further, even with her doubts, Natalia feels awkward and turned off by this.
Controversy arises from all sex and particularly darker themes such as humiliation, kink, control, and rough. I must say I agree with The Young Turks general consensus, Natalia could have been clearer if she wanted it to stop, Adam should also have been more aware of his partner.
The fact is that sometimes authors and screenwriters need to take that step - be damned the controversy - for the sake of their characters, for the sake of the story and the heart of the matter.
I have included a short excerpt from my short story Too Deep. In this scene Ally is discussing with her fantasy rapes with her father after he accidentally discovered them.
“He's an abuser!”
“No. He's a man who grants me everything my heart desires. Even the stuff no one else could.”
“By hitting you?”
I swallowed. How could I make him see? “Its not the hitting. Its not intentional pain.” I bit my lip, suddenly very aware that I was about to tell my father everything. “Daddy, its the struggle for power. The struggle to show we're strong enough to handle the loss of control.”
My dad literally paled. His face ashen. “What?”
“I am a controlled person. I've gone through this life knowing exactly what I wanted to do and what I could do. I have obtained every goal I set out with. With Micah I don't have that control. He is his own person, equally strong and with equally strong goals and morals. He respects people, works hard to please others, but above all he's trustworthy. I could never have this relationship with anyone else because I could never trust and love them as much as I do Micah.
“I know the risks involved with our relationship, as he does. It took him weeks of thinking about this before he entered into it. And how many countless hours and years before that wishing for the fight for power and for the excitement of someone that could give you themselves so perfectly, understand the carnality of the power over one another. And even if he hadn't had those countless hours, he would have still spent (time) in a jail cell slapped in the face with the repercussions of this lifestyle we want so badly.” ~Too Deep: A Third Rape Fantasy